Reason 8: You Feel As If You Are Doing It Alone

If you’re a single mother or married and feeling like a single mother, you may feel as if you’ve been flimflammed. It took two to tango, but now you feel as if you’re the one dancing alone.

You may be the mom who didn’t want to have children, but the dad convinced you to have a child. You probably convinced yourself that he and everyone else were right. A child will complete your family.

The assumption that both parents would share in the responsibilities of taking care of a child just naturally seemed to compliment the packaged dream. Somehow though, it feels as if the child-rearing is left solely to you.

And now you feel tricked and trapped in a life you never wanted. It just further solidifies your decision on not wanting any children. You wished you had listened to yourself.

Or maybe you’re married and thought being a parent would turn into a partnership between you and your significant other. The possibilities were endless. It would bring you closer together, but somehow the dream turned into a bad joke. You’re waiting for the punchline because you feel as if you’re doing it all alone while living out someone else’s dream.

Perhaps you were mentally prepared to take motherhood by the horns and take care of your child(ren) yourself. Then with time, you realized that parenting is not a one person job. It’s meant for two people. It does, after all, take two people to make a baby.

You Are Not Alone

Mama, that’s ok, because you are not alone in your thinking or in the way you feel.

But don’t lose hope. We can’t change the past, but we can determine how our future plays out.

You are the greatest-of-all-time (GOAT) Most Valuable Parent (MVP). Lady, you are getting things done.

You get the kids ready for their school day, then you make your way to get to work on time, even if it’s in the home (sometimes or most times, maybe even all the time). Once that’s taken care of, you may have a break in between your workday, if not, you’re on your way to get the kids from school, only to head back home to help them with homework and get dinner ready if you haven’t done so already. Then finally, you get the kids ready for bed to start it all over again tomorrow.

You may or may not have made time for yourself, but you survived and made it through another day.

It’s a lot of work, but you’re doing an awe-inspiring job even if you weren’t able to get everything done!

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Get Ahold of Your Life

Don’t give up on yourself, and when things get tough, do not quit. Do not rely on your own strength to get you through those trying days. Remember: ALL of your help comes from the Lord. If you need the help, lean on Him and trust Him to provide it for you.

That may mean that you may have to hire some help, leave the child(ren) with their dad, or take time for yourself to clear your mind. Whatever you decide or are feeling led to do, listen to yourself, listen to what God wants to tell you, and don’t feel as if you have to do it all by yourself.

The takeaway: We are all on different spectrums on this motherhood journey. From the mother who always knew that she wanted to have children, to the mother who was on the fence, to the one who didn’t want any children gracing her womb, this adventure is a lot to take on, but you are here.

You can decide that you’re going to take the bull of life by the horns and take over your life. Or you can allow lit to trample over you, leaving you to feel hopeless, helpless, and defeated.

Choose to do more than just live. Life may be giving you a run for your money, but you are meant to be great, even with your children.

God created you to be the victor and not a victim over and to your circumstances. 

You got this, mama!

Be strong and courageous! Do not be afraid or discouraged. For the Lord your God is with you wherever you go.

Joshua 1:9

Before you go, let’s talk!: How are you feeling? What are some of the things motherhood has taught you?

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Thank you, guys! I look forward to speaking to you soon.